So which rims can use stock lug nuts? I don't think all tuner style lugs are bad. I've never heard of anyone splitting the full spline style lugs.
Mine were American Eagle AE12s- they had a Raptor specific fitment that was hubcentric and used the stock lugs. They don't sell those wheels anymore though AFAIK.
"Tuner lugs" will never be as robust as an OEM sized lugnut if they are made of the same material. Given the weight of the Raptor's wheels and tires and the usage patterns these trucks see, I'm just not down to run some tiny ass lug nut simply because the wheel manufacturer cannot design a wheel that uses the proper OEM sized lugs. Do I think tuner lugs are going to cause your wheel to fall off? No. Is the OEM design better? Yes.
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is possible for the wheel companies to make a wheel that use OEM lugs- they just choose not to so they can make the least amount of SKUs possible to fit the most amount of trucks. IE, they are cheaping out and forcing you to buy a new set of lug nuts that are markedly weaker than the OEM design. Half the junk being sold isn't even hubcentric either. Method has been the poster child for cheap, chicom cast, non-hubcentric, tuner lug required wheels for a decade. Raptor guys love them too- go figure huh? A lot of their stuff is finally getting to be hubcentric at least.