Ok update:
I forgot that I had replaced cabin air end of last summer to one of those amazon special activated charcoal 1” thick units.
Well I swapped it out this morning with a fram titanium unit from Advanced auto parts that was much closer to stock . Thinner , less restrictive , lighter weight.
Put it in and bang , nearly twice the airflow. And cooling was much closer to how It should be. We have 83 degrees and high humidity. I need to test it in 90 degree heat soak today. So far its looking like this might be what caused all this. When airflow moves slower across an evaporator a lot of crazy shit can happen to the system including lower suction and higher high side pressures.
Will update fingers crossed. I will be pissed if a 27 dollar amazon airfilter caused me to evac and recharge the ac system.