I run the Icon 3.0 Coilovers on my truck, set near where @
ICONRep suggested on the height. I don't have the number handy, but it would be mid perch, if not a little above. I run everywhere (street, RX course, dirt) with the setting all the way to the H. Personally I did not like the way the front end felt on the S settings. Hard to describe besides "a little spongy or laggy." I am very happy with the feedback the coilovers provide. I have not considered taking off the front sway bar, and do not intend to. Again, I feel it would take away from the feedback I want / feel in the truck.
I have added the Hellwig Rear Sway bar to my truck to. I mention that only to give you an idea of where I want my truck to perform and the feedback I expect.
Each driver has their own expected feedback from the vehicle based on road conditions, expectations, and asselorometer. To each their own. What further drives me from wanting to disconnect the sway bar, on the front, goes back to one of the Robert Racing (IIRC) broke a front sway bar, twice, and both times resulted in lost time during a race. Granted a TT is a different animal, my opinion is that the sway bar is just as important of a performance part, as it is a potential safety part.