Ok, try this:
For the 12" solid kicker at 60MPH example:
The suspension has .0166 seconds to move the rear of the truck up 3" (see earlier posts for math). To do so it needs to exert 170,000 pounds of force to the truck frame. This is impossible, and therefore you have crashing between axle and frame (through the bumpstop), and frame damage.
For a 10' jump example:
Vertical velocity on landing is -25.4 ft/s.
The suspension has 12" of travel to reduce vertical velocity to zero or there will be crashing (suspension includes the use of the stops).
Vf = 0
Vo = -25.4 ft/s
Xf = -1 (feet)
Xo = 0
a = constant
t = constant (solve for a and t)
two equations: Vf = Vo + at AND Xf = Xo + Vo * t + 1/2 a * t^2
yields t = .078 s
a = 321.5 ft/s^s or about 10gs
So,
for the 10' jump example, to not have a crash, the suspension has to "push up" on the frame an average of 30,000 pounds over a foot of travel (possible).
For the kicker, the suspension has to push up an average of 170,000 pounds to avoid a crash between the axle (bump stop is squashed flat) and frame.
Now see why the kicker is so nasty? The truth is that the force during the kicker will exceed that 170,000 pounds due to the fact that there is metal on metal impact. 85+ TONS of force will bend frames (pretty much any frame).