I like 4 hi , use it ALOT here in MT. I just drove 325 miles on mixed snow, snow drifts, ice , wet , dry and slush. Pretty much had it all. Now one reason I like 4 hi on the highway is from the extreme cross winds we get here in the Eastern half of MT. The wind always seems to be 90 degrees to the road, and constantly slowing down and speeding up for corners , critters, and traffic, 4hi helps to keep the back end from breaking loose on the slippery stuff when trying to accelerate moderately with the xwinds.
Anyway, I never run 4 hi on dry paved roads, ( not that going to 4 hi going straight is going to explode the case, but if it's snow, ice, or mixed dry and snow , or dirt then if I need it I will. I don't take slow really tight corners in 4wd unless the surface will let my tires slip ., I use 4hi in town, driving around, and if I need to I just stay off the throttle and go to 2 wd, let if shift, then gently get back on the throttle, same for going into 4wd, off throttle, shift, ensure its engaged and back on the throttle, I never shift into or out of 4wd under a driveline load if I can help it. Which I almost always can.