don't shift manually, let the trans shift itself. At WOT it's going to wind out the gear as long as you'd want it to anyway.
put the locker on, it'll disengage above 20 mph anyway
hold traction control till it turns off completely. not just the single press to put it in sport mode or whatever it is.
as for ORM and T/H, not quite sure on that one. Guys say T/H mode seems to pep the truck up a bit with how it responds, I haven't even really messed with it yet, actually forgot I even had it lol
Oh and don't stall it up real high on the launch. Many times just flashing the converter will get you the best launch rather than stalling it up real high and bogging things down.
I'll be taking mine out to the track in April just to see what it'll do for the heck of it. Oh and it'll be towing my buddy's Lightning there, so I'll be unhitching, racing next to him, then hitching back up and towing him home! lol