Not going to say your perception isn't real to you... but I'll add to the stack of people who say they've had absolutely no issue with the factory hitch on my 2018 and I pretty regularly haul a 6,000lb RV with 600lb tongue weight (same RV I used to haul with my Gen-1 if that makes the "Genny war" any better) .
But...
1) You want the drawbar all the way in, not all the way out. All the way out "increases" leverage imposed upon the receiver you think got "bent" (think breaker bar or length of pipe on a wrench for that stubborn bolt... the longer the pipe, the easier it is to bend the wrench)
2) Dunno what you think that is holding the trailer on the truck, but what's pictured is not a weight distribution hitch (just saying, because if you think it is... it's not)
3) Anyone who's setup a weight distribution hitch will tell you that you increase down-angle on the ball to increase leverage on the distribution bars (removing squat) or decrease down-angle to decrease leverage (eliminate rise at the ball - which knowing Raptors is pretty rare for both Gen-1 and 2) (and yes, the Gen-2 does squat more and you do have to adjust this when you upgrade from a Gen-1)
4) Down-angle on the ball without a WDH has absolutely no bearing on tow-ability if all other aspects of *how you are loading* are correct. It's a ball - it's round. ;-) If you're squatting so bad you're grinding the stem of that ball... the receiver isn't the issue.
The Raptor already comes with a Class IV rated receiver, and all the documentation will tell you the receiver is NOT the weakest link in the Raptor's towing rating. But it's your peace of mind... the most correct answer then is go ahead and buy an aftermarket receiver if it makes you feel better. I know I would if all I could think about while towing is losing the load. Wouldn't even need moral support of an entire forum full of opinion... just do it.
