My wife currently drives a ‘20 X5M and I have a Gen 3. Interior space on the Raptor doesn’t even compare, it’s gigantic compared to the X5. Ride quality is absolutely better too, no question. For any sort of longer distance trip, or if we’re taking our dog with us (in addition to our 2 kids), we take the Raptor 100% of the time. The Raptor also opens the door to an entire world of off pavement adventures if you’re into that.
The X5M is brutally fast, I don’t even think the R would compare at all. And the handling is night and day if you want sporty handling. With that said, the X5M handling doesn’t come close to a proper sports car IMO.
With all that said, it’s really gonna be personal preference. But when my wife and I compare vehicles I don’t feel they’re really in different classes if that makes sense. They both have pros and cons.