1. Raptor has way better resale
2. much cheaper maint than the BMW unless u need to replace suspension components.
3. in 2 years i got pulled over once and i was doing something stupid
4. it attracts lots of people and its mostly positive
5. yes i would still buy it. for u tho, u may want to look into a loaded ecoboost F150 from the sounds of your post. even tho the value of the Raptor is better....
6. i do use it for family vacation trips and its the best road trip vehicle we have owned. space is good, storage (have bed cover) is good, nice comfy ride, etc...