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Check out
Mid-Atlantic Ford Raptor Association if you are on Facebook
Got an event coming up soon at Rausch Creek offroad park in PA soon. Bring your Raptor out and see what it can do. It's nothing crazy and you go at your on pace. ($85 for the event and covers food and a goodie bag from some of the vendors on here)
Check out Freedom Motorsports (Located in VA) for a lot of your mods. Great people to deal with and they make sure you are happy. Not BSing
KHC "Krazy House Customs" (Located in NJ) does a lot of installs as well as other things.
As far as lights go I deal with Alternative Offroad for all my light needs. I did order some rear facing Ambers from Apollo Optics this morning though.
I feel like a walking advertisement man but just letting you know the shops I deal with and the good service.