I'm not entirely clear what you're asking.
You have glare-free enabled so that in turn means that your Auto High Beam is disabled. More clearly, I suppose "adaptive" means that the headlight shines left and right as you turn the wheel while in motion. Is that what you're referring to? You are correct that all features, adaptive, Auto High Beam, or Glare-Free are disabled if the light switch is not in "Auto".
I cannot help on the flickering regarding the DRLs set to the ABD values. That sounds like a warranty issue to me. Do you have the parking lights enabled with the DRLs?