If they turning you away, thank them.
I‘m on my 4th Raptor. First ABM and went through a good quality auto wash with conveyor. The overhead brushes, actually strips of material, somehow took a pinkie nail size chunk of paint out of leading edge of the hood.
Took my 3rd, a Leadfoot, to a conveyor wash and it jumped the track, shut the whole place down while they reset it.
I find washing my own vehicles to be relaxing and fun, but have now found a hand wash detailer about 20 minute drive that does an awesome job. They give the interior a complete bl*wjob, then vacuum, etc.