I just wrapped up finding a switched hot and trigger circuit for when the parking/head lamps turn on for my SwitchPro 9100 on my Gen-1. These newer Fords are little more troublesome when comparing to older vehicles that's for sure with finding a switched hot. Just about all of the darn fuse ports whether inside the cab or in the engine compartment is always hot. No wonder newer vehicles' battery die/weaken if sitting for more than 2-weeks. Anyway, I know what you mean about the one side getting 12v and the other .Xv. Just make sure that you check that sub-volt side when the ignition is on and then off. That's the side that you'll want to splice to. The other complication is that these low profile mini fuses have a nub in-between the fuse spades. I think they're for alignment. I like to use these brass fuse splicers. Makes it super easy on regular micro/mini/ATO fuses; however, I had to nibble the part that gets inserted a bit to make it fit & tight.
I had the same problem with a '19 for a friend of mine but he no longer has it anymore & I don't remember which one I used to precisely tell you which one. Fuse location #14 seems to be relatively close to where I found it but it's been almost 2yrs ago. Luckily for my recent Gen-1 wiring fun, I didn't freeze like you did, but it took patience with several trips back n' forth to turn the ignition on/off with using a test-light/volt-meter.
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