How does a transmission “struggle”? The only time I’ve seen a harmonic balancer fail is when engine work is performed and the pulley bolt it not replaced and torqued properly. It’s not actually the harmonic balancer that causes the damage, it’s the lack of torque holding the crank gear.
Frequently my transmission “struggles” to find the correct gear. Usually at highway speed with cruise control on. Kind of feels like switching gears on a cheap mountain bike. It just bangs around until the gears catch hold.....or I can hit the gas and force the downshift. That usually clears it up.
As far as the balancer goes, I will never know exactly what happened. I took off from a stop light and suddenly the engine started vibrating. I pulled over to check it out and saw the crank pulley bouncing around pretty good. The dealership said they tested the oil and found a lot of metal, so Ford replaced everything including the turbos. I was expecting a nightmare, but fortunately the dealer got me on the road in about a month.