I don't understand why everyone is so afraid to use a relay. You can have the lights come on with the reverse lights or turn them on with the upfitter switch without turning on the factory backup lights (which if you want to be able to use them as dust lighting, is the best way). They aren't witchcraft. They aren't complicated. Hell, they aren't even expensive.
Get 10 of them for ~$14.00.
https://www.amazon.com/10-Pack-5-Pin-Electrical-Relays/dp/B01KVZ2KEM/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1499863350&sr=8-5&keywords=5+pin+relay
Get 10 of them for ~$14.00.
https://www.amazon.com/10-Pack-5-Pin-Electrical-Relays/dp/B01KVZ2KEM/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1499863350&sr=8-5&keywords=5+pin+relay