yeah, I am paying 10k over MSRP for my order (stuck in chip purgatory right now) it is the best I could find for a dealer with an allocation, contacted at least 100 dealers, there were places that said they would do it for cheaper, but didn't actually have allocations and already had long wait lists to place an order if they actually got an allocation. It took me a while to wrap my head around paying ADM, but here in Portland from what I am finding everything even like an explorer has a 2-5k ADM on it.
My feeling is that ADM is kind of something that is here to stay for a while. supply chain and logistics issues will be here for a while, (this problem has been in process since 2008) and once all the dealers realize that people will pay ADM on anything they aren't gonna want to let that go quickly. I am not saying give up the search if you have the grit to keep it up.
For me personally, I got to the point where I was just over the emotional rollercoaster of the search and was able to use the above reasoning to justify paying ADM.